So you’ve broken up. It’s over. And you’re left heartbroken and confused. We’ve all been there. I’ve been there. The most important thing to do is not to panic. Now, I know that’s easier said than done, especially as you are feeling so emotional right now. All I can ask you to do is take a deep breath or several and listen to me when I say the first step is to DO NOTHING!
That’s right. Nothing. Don’t pick up the phone or go see them. Sit on your hands if you have to but emails and texts are also OUT. This is the situation at its most critical and it is vital you get it right from the outset. The absolute worst thing you can do is start professing your undying devotion or begging your lover to take you back. If you’d like to find out just why that is SO crucial keep reading.
This leads me neatly on to step number two which is to put yourself first. When a break-up happens it’s only natural to focus entirely on your ex-lover. You think about them, obsess about them. You wonder what they are doing. When all of that emotional energy could be better spent looking after yourself.
Believe me when I tell you that it is extremely important you take care of your own needs now. The pain can even be physical. I know I’ve felt it – an empty ache in my chest. If some other part of you was hurting that bad you’d take care of it, wouldn’t you? This is just the same as any other wound. You need to tend it with love.
Not love for your ex but love for yourself right now. And the absolute best way to love yourself is to put yourself first. Ask yourself how you really feel about the break up. Are you confused? Hurt? Angry? You want to get your lover back so I’m assuming you still care about them but it’s not their feelings that count the most.
In Part Two of this article I’m going to move you on to the next stage of how to get a lover back. For now, I’d like you to acknowledge your feelings. Maybe even write them down. Whatever you do, don’t share them with your ex-lover. If you write them down, do not even think of sending them as a letter. Just keep them for yourself. I’ll tell you why in Part Two and I’ll also share with you the absolute, killer technique that has never failed to get a lover back. For more great advice in the meantime, CLICK HERE
