You know the worst thing about a break up? The effect it has on your outlook. Time and again I talk to people who tell me they can’t imagine being happy until they get their lover back.
The thing is, we really do tend to get what we project. And if what you are transmitting is total misery how on earth do you expect to bring love back into your life? Please don’t dismiss this as some kind of New Age quackery – this rule holds true for all our emotional interactions. If you want to bring love back into your life you need to be bursting with the stuff. But how to do that when you feel like all the love disappeared along with your ex?
Easy. There are all kinds of love and the most important one for you right now is love for yourself. That’s right – you need to love yourself even more than you love your ex and you need to love life most of all. Project that kind of energy and you’ll get a lover back quicker than you can snap your fingers. Positive people are irresistible and someone who simply bursts with optimism and love for life is the most magnetic kind of person of all.
Yeah, right, I hear you sigh. How do you expect me to burst with love and joy when I can’t imagine ever feeling that way again? Again, easy – all we need to do is reframe your thinking. This little-known technique works wonders and will make you feel instantly better about yourself and about life. Try it for yourself – you’ll be amazed at the results.
I want you to think of something you’re just about certain you’ll be doing 30 days from now. Maybe it’s slaving away at your desk. Could be some social function you already have in your diary. Whatever it is, think about it. Really picture it. Now take note of where you picture it. Do you see it above you? Straight ahead? Up and to the right or left? Or maybe down?
Wherever it may be, that’s the place on your personal time line that represents for you the near future.
Next I want you to think of something you’re pretty certain you’ll be doing a year from now. Don’t over-complicate it. Think of something that happens regularly once a year. It could be Christmas. Your birthday. Your dental check-up. Whatever.
Just think about it, and again note where you position the image. That position represents the more distant future for you. Repeat the exercise 2 years into the future, and for as far ahead as you wish. When you are done, draw an imaginary line in your mind connecting these points. This is your complete future time line.
Now for the fun part. I want you to think of a time in your life when you were unbelievably happy, when you were just about the happiest you have ever been. When you truly loved life and felt totally yourself.
When you’ve got that image really clear and strong in your mind (and make it as big and colorful as you like – really feel it), pull that joyful picture of you on to the 30 day point on your time line. Do this over and over until when you simply imagine that 30 day future point the joyful image automatically appears.
Repeat this for all the other future points you have already pictured, doing it until that picture of you at your happiest just shows up automatically.
So what have you just done? You projected happiness and optimism into your future. You’ve literally imprinted on your mind and emotions a new reality: that your future is full of joy. That in your future you will not only be in love with life you will also be totally at ease with and loving yourself.
Your mind is like a computer – it accepts whatever you feed it. Having reprogrammed your picture of yourself in your future makes it far easier to radiate love and optimism. By doing both those things you are much, much more likely to not only get your lover back but create a far better future.
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